30 Potential Blocks in the Therapy Process For Clients With Dissociative Identity Disorder


The healing process for Dissociative Identity Disorder (DID/MPD) is very long, involved and complex. It takes years of time to work through all the issues and complications created from severe trauma and dissociative splitting, and while that length of time may feel discouraging in the beginning, let me assure you that progress truly is possible.  You really can heal from your hurt and traumas and lead productive happy, healthy lives.

Therapy is somewhat like the progression through years of school.  Therapy work builds upon itself through time to involve a lot of additional steps – the basics needing to be accomplished and mastered first.  If the basics are neglected or not learned well, then therapy will get stuck — and if someone goes to school and gets stuck in the fifth grade for three years, they are going to feel very frustrated, especially if the goal is to graduate from high school.

So what keeps a person stuck and unable to progress further in their healing?  What blocks their therapy from moving forward?

Sometimes people get comfortable addressing only the surface layers of their trauma.  Sometimes they get too afraid to address the deeper layers of their system.  Therapeutic resistance can be normal for various periods of time.  But will avoiding those areas of your healing bring you the peace of mind that you want?

What if you have been in therapy for years already and are still struggling desperately?  Blocks and stalemates in the therapy process usually lead to increased depression, ongoing anxiety, more self-injury, not to mention the added frustration and wasted time and resources.  While it is important to tackle the healing process at your own pace, it is also good to make significant treatment gains at every step of the way.

What is missing in your therapy healing process?

What is interfering with your therapy process?

Where are you resistant to change?

Here are some of the common reasons that people get stuck in their healing process:


  • A fear of seeing the abuse – wanting to keep those dissociative walls in place
  • A lack of resources, and financial constraints to being able to get sufficient help
  • A refusal to accept that loving family members were also abusive monsters
  • An adamant refusal to look at who the abusers were
  • Anger – wanting a “safe target” to fight with instead of a therapist for assistance and guidance
  • Being too busy testing everyone over and over instead of getting to the actual therapy work
  • Clinging to denial, clinging to denial, clinging to denial
  • Comfort Clingers – wanting to stay hurting, even on purpose, to get comforting responses from other people
  • Creating distractions from therapy work
  • Current-day abusers actively sabotaging the progress you are making in therapy
  • Current-day control by external abusers reinforcing the fear of telling
  • External life issues become too overwhelming, ie: kids, school, work, finances,
  • Fatigue, frustration, and just being tired of Trauma Therapy Toronto  issues being the center of your life
  • Fear of learning more, of future consequences, of any number of things.
  • Fear of other loved ones being hurt or abused if certain secrets are exposed
  • Finger-pointing blame at others instead of being self-responsible for movement and changes
  • Genuinely incompetent therapy or working with an uninformed therapist
  • Interference of addictions – any form of drug abuse, alcohol abuse, sex addition, etc
  • Internal programming is running interference and not being removed or addressed
  • Laziness – thinking that healing happens magically without having to put in the hard work required
  • Not really and truly wanting to do the therapy work – simply going through the motions instead
  • Outgrowing the therapeutic knowledge and assistance that your current therapist can offer
  • Putting more effort into helping / rescuing others than addressing personal issues
  • Refusal to speak with the others in your system
  • Refusing to acknowledge, admit, or address your own negative behavior
  • Sabotage – of self, of relationships, of therapy
  • Self-injury, self-destructive behaviors, suicidal behavior
  • The front host refusing to speak with the inside system
  • The Ostrich Syndrome — denial or blindness to seeing the reality of the problem
  • Threats of ongoing abuse if certain secrets are exposed


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